What are the most common sexual problems for men?
Men ask me this all the time!
Premature or rapid ejaculation, erectile problems and performance anxiety are the most common issues. They often appear in combinations and one can lead to another. For example, a man with erectile problems will often develop performance anxiety and may try to rush intercourse before he loses his erection, which over time can lead to rapid ejaculation (RE). Men’s sexual problems are often over-simplified to purely physiological and while sometimes they may be caused by surgery, illness, injury, medication or age, there is usually a psychological and often a relational impact to be addressed too.
Men tend not to look for help early. Whether single or in relationships, issues with performance significantly impact their confidence and before long unhelpful thought and expectation habits build. By the time I see them there is usually work needed to break those habits and build new, helpful ones. The sooner they look for help, the less ingrained the habits tend to be.
The good news is that there are masses of ways to improve these problems. Depending on the cause, it may be necessary to alter ideas of what great sex means. People can find this challenging but physiological changes are inevitable and all men will experience problems with function at some point. Best to get help sooner and not suffer in silence.